Watching parents fall out of love and end their relationship creates uncertainty in the household, no matter the child’s age. And when parents move into separate households, children are tasked with adjusting to life without the presence of both parents each day.
Fortunately, there are ways to make divorce easier on your kids.
Let them know both parents love them unconditionally – Your children might feel like the divorce is their fault. Reassure them it is not and both you and your spouse love them.
Be the adult – Your children need nurturing and your role is to help them through this process. Hopefully you have a support system in place to nurture you when you need it.
Be a good listener – Pay attention to your children’s emotions and encourage open communication.
Be mindful of transitions – Children are already adjusting to two homes and finding their “new normal”. Avoid unnecessary change to reduce your child’s stress.
Communicate with your ex – This isn’t easy, but it helps if you can forgive your ex at some level. Pick up and drop offs should be cordial. Your children should see both parents as pleasant as possible toward one another.
Don’t talk poorly about the other parent – Making negative statements about your ex in front of your children is not healthy. In fact, it may harm your child’s sense of self-worth. If you have something to say to your former spouse, contact them directly and keep children out of it.